Shifting from Negative to Positive Mindset with JOY
We are wired to pay attention to the negative. This helps us avoid danger and also alerts us to problems that need solving. However, we can often get stuck on the negative and forget about all the positive aspects of our lives. When we feel overwhelmed by the negative we also can begin to lose sight of what is important to us. We can counteract this by habitually and intentionally taking time to focus on – and talk about – the positive.
When we share the positives, the things that bring us joy, with others, several benefits occur.
- First, by opening up and sharing with others we create strong connections.
- Second, we remind ourselves what is truly important.
- And third, we spend time focusing on and celebrating the positive.
By doing this more often, we are creating new habits and actually changing our brain to scan for the positive rather than gravitating toward negative.
The things that bring us joy in life are what renew us, give us peace, and keep us feeling strong. They also sustain us during times of crisis and challenge.
“Joy, over time, fuels resilience – ensuring we have reservoirs of emotional strength when hard things do happen”Brené Brown
Consider putting a symbol of your small joys on your desk, bureau, or kitchen table as a constant reminder.
Take time now to jot down what brings you joy.
Be specific. For example, instead of “vacations” -write what you specifically like about vacations, such as being off work, seeing new places, being in nature, etc. Instead of writing “family” or “friends”, write down specifics – such as getting to talk to my best friend when I’m stressed out and feeling supported, having lunch with my son, etc. Also take time to list the small things as well, things that are often taken for granted – e.g., my coffee in the morning, sitting on my porch on a nice day, the co-worker who always smiles at me in the morning.
Also take time to list the small things as well, things that are often taken for granted – e.g., my coffee in the morning, sitting on my porch on a nice day, the co-worker who always smiles at me in the morning. I’ve included a document you can download and list your small joys of life.
Here’s your challenge for the week ahead,
Schedule time for activities that bring you joy
Notice the small things that bring you joy
Share joyful times with others😊